How to Set Boundaries
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My top 3 tips for setting work/life boundaries
Boundaries are just rules that we give ourselves to have the life we're trying to create - but how do we make those rules? Where do we start? How do you know when to set a boundary?
How To Set Boundaries When You’re Working From Home
A lot of times when you hear people talk about how they achieved so much or how they had the time to do x,y,z we don’t fully realized the amount of mental work that goes into that. Yes there’s stress of finishing the tasks, staying consistent etc, but its more than that.
I made a tiktok a while back about how I became stricter with my time - the results of which was I ended up having more time to do what I want in my personal life and needed less time to get things done in my work life.
This was a boundary I made for myself.
Boundaries are just rules we give ourselves to help us have the life we’re trying to create.
Let’s think about rules for a second.
Every facility has them - and for a reason and the reason always comes down to safety. Safety of the consumer, the products and the facility.
If you’re a mom you have them for your kids, if you’re a bank you have them so you don’t get robbed.
What’s the difference between creating rules for yourself, for how you achieve goals, how you allow yourself to be treated etc etc. If you’re listening to today’s episode you’re most likely self-employed in some capacity - and if you made it this far its probably because you want to be better at making boundaries for yourself.
So lets hop into it:
My top 3 tips when creating boundaries are:
When you create a goal for yourself - create at least one rule that goes along with it.
For example - my goal this month is to lower my screen time on my phone - so the rule I’m applying to the goal is - my phone is not welcome in my office unless I’m intentionally creating content.
Because I make content on my phone and in my office this has to be the exception to the rule, but once I’m done creating content my phone needs to go to a designated place. You can hang a basket outside your office door, put it on your dresser, in the kitchen - where ever is easiest to implement the rule and allow the exception.
When you’re creating a boundary about or around time, make sure you have multiple systems set up to help you avoid interruptions.
For example - my door to my office maybe shut, and my husband and son may know I’m working but unless that door is locked - whats really stopping a 3 year old from opening the door or my husband from checking to see I need anything. For more tips on how to avoid the interruptions I’ll link a video up at the top if you’re watching on YouTube and I’ll leave the link in the show notes.
Another example is if you’re goal is to work for at least an hour, or for only an hour, if you have ADHD like you know there’s a very high possibility you can get caught in hyper focus and lose track of time or your time awareness might be off and the last 15 minutes felt like the longest year of your life. - set timers
3. Track when it feels like someone crossed the line.
If you’re new to creating boundaries or not good at figuring out what boundaries you need in you life - start tracking when someone - a friend, client, customer, family member etc - does something that make you uncomfortable, hurt, or feeling like you regret the interaction and “should have said this” or “should have done that”
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For more on boundaries - listen to season 2 episode 4 when Marisa and I talked all about boundaries and people pleasing.
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